Stop Abandoning Your Writing (And Yourself)

The process I return to again and again when writing the hard things

There's a particular kind of nausea that shows up when you try to write the truth. Not the surface truth—the bone truth.

I’ve felt it in my body more times than I can count. When I first sat down to write about growing up in a meth lab. When I tried to put language to what it meant to have a mother in prison. When I revisited the home invasions, the Manson family connections, the way fear shaped every inch of my childhood.

I'd stare at the blinking cursor for twenty minutes, write three lines, and then find myself deep-cleaning baseboards or reorganizing the junk drawer with manic intensity. Anything but face what waited for me on the page.

Every time I’d try, my body would scream, “Stop. This isn’t safe.”

And so I’d close the laptop. Walk away. Promise myself I’d try again tomorrow. Or next week. Or someday when I was more “ready.”

But ready never came.

What did come—slowly, over years of returning to the page with my heart hammering and fear lodged in my throat—was something else entirely. A rhythm. A process. A way of working with the fear instead of letting it shut me down.

And now, I want to share that process with you.

The Fear-to-Flow Framework

A grounded, body-based approach to writing the stories that scare us.

This isn’t a writing guide full of prompts or productivity hacks. It’s a nervous-system-informed approach created specifically for personal stories that feel too big, too scary, or too painful to write. The truths we’ve been carrying for too long. The stories we’ve avoided for years because they felt too overwhelming to touch.

This is the exact framework I use when I sit down to write the hardest parts of my life. When I feel the fear rise up like a wave. When everything in me wants to bolt from the room.

It’s how I’ve written the memoir I’m currently publishing here on Substack, one chapter at a time. The One Who Leaves is the most vulnerable thing I’ve ever shared. And I wouldn’t have been able to write a single word of it without this process.

I’ve used this approach to write the stories I once thought were impossible to touch…

• The night the cops raided our house when I was three and arrested my parents.

• The endless hours under fluorescent lights in the prison visiting ward.

• The meth lab Dad built in our garage.

• The burn scars on my baby brother’s skin.

• Dad driving off the side of a mountain and waiting to hear if he’d survived.

• Mom’s overdose and the coma that followed.

• All the things I thought I’d buried until they came roaring back when I sat down to write.

Inside the framework, I walk you through three essential stages:

Recognize & Reframe

Name what’s actually stopping you. Meet your fear with compassion—not judgment. Start to shift the stories you’ve been telling yourself about why you can’t write the thing that’s been calling to you.

Release & Write

Create real safety—physical, emotional, and energetic—so you can stay present while writing. I share the exact practices I return to when I’m writing something raw, vulnerable, or triggering. This is how I write without abandoning myself.

Reflect & Refine

Honor the work. Hold what came up. Decide how and when to share it. Or if it’s just for you.

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What makes this different is that it isn’t just about writing—it’s about staying with yourself while you write.

It’s not about pushing through. It’s about working with your body, your fear, your truth.

Because fear isn’t a flaw in your process.
It’s a signal.
It means the story matters.

And often, the greater the fear, the deeper the truth underneath it.

If you’ve ever sat down to write and felt your body tense, your brain go blank, or your urge to flee spike through the roof—this is for you.

The Fear to Flow Framework is available now for just $7.

I’ll be sharing more in the coming weeks about how I use this process to write my memoir, how I regulate through tricky scenes, and what it means to tell the truth without losing yourself in the process.

But if this feels like something you’ve been needing, if you’ve been waiting for a way to finally write the story you keep running from, don’t wait.

You don’t have to do this alone.
And you don’t have to push through the fear.
There’s another way. Let me show you. The special pricing is available through the end of the month.

It’s time to release the stories that have lived as weight inside you for too long.
It’s time to finally be free.

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You can read more about the memoir here and why I decided to serialize it here on Substack…